I’ve got a fair number of Americans who ask me: “Hey, I’ve been thinking of moving to Barcelona because I really like European culture, watched that Woody Allen movie, love sangria etc”. Most likely these people, if they do move, will last about one or two years before moving back in disgust.
The reason is that Spain is designed for Spaniards (and Catalunya for Catalans), ie people with family and connections to where they live. Most people would not even consider moving to the next town in order to take a higher paying job (or a job at all). Friends tend to be for life and making new friends is a long and painful process…
In addition, if you have kids, it is almost impossible to juggle work and kids unless:
- You make a lot of money and can afford a full time nanny (or your partner doesn’t work)
- You have a lot of money and don’t need income
- You have family here (especially grandparents) that can take over
Remember that jobs here pay very little (I know doctors making 2500 euros a month), so most couples need to work full time.
Also, having a sick kids isn’t considered a valid excuse to miss work and working from home is not really done in Spain. (The perception is that most people would just goof off). Your kids will get sick here more often since parents will send their kids to school unless they are actually in need to emergency medical care.
One other thing to think about is that if you move here and the relationship doesn’t work out, you could be stuck in Spain for long time if you want to see you kids grow up. I know a person in that situation and it’s very sad to watch…
So basically: move to Europe if some is willing to pay you a lot of money or you have family you can rely on. Otherwise, stay in America. Or just come for vacation.